What It’s Like to Work With Me on Your Wedding Day

Most couples start their search for a wedding photographer by looking at images.

And that makes sense. You want to love how the work looks.

But after years of photographing and filming weddings, I’ve realised something that often matters just as much — sometimes more….

How it feels to work with the person who’s there for one of the most important days of your life.

Your photographer isn’t just turning up for the ceremony and a few portraits.

They’re there in the quiet parts of the morning.
Around your closest people.
During emotional moments.
On the dance floor late at night.

They’re part of the environment of your day.

And that matters..

So what it’s like to work together really does shape how your wedding feels.

It should feel easy

Something couples often say to me after their wedding is that I felt less like “the photographer” and more like a friend who happened to be there with a camera.

Someone approachable.
Someone they were comfortable around.
Someone their guests chatted to.
Someone who felt part of the day without ever taking it over.

That sense of ease changes everything.

That matters to me, because the best moments don’t happen when people feel observed.

They happen when people feel comfortable.

And real moments only happen when people are able to be themselves.

You don’t need to perform your wedding

I don’t believe your wedding day should feel like a production.

I’m not there to run it.
I’m not there to constantly move you.
And I’m not there to turn real moments into staged ones.

I work in a way that’s present, calm, and responsive.

Sometimes that means stepping forward and offering gentle guidance.
Sometimes it means stepping back and letting something unfold.

Always, it means paying attention.

To people.
To atmosphere.
To what’s actually happening.

So you can stay where you should be — in it.

The experience starts long before the wedding

For me, the experience doesn’t start when I arrive with a camera.

It starts with conversations.

Getting to know you.
Hearing how you met.
What you’re excited about.
What you’re nervous about.
What you want your wedding to feel like.

That connection is what allows everything to feel natural when the day comes.

You’re not spending your wedding with a stranger.

You’re spending it with someone who already understands what matters to you.

And it continues long after

After the wedding, the work becomes slower and more considered.

I edit every wedding myself.
Nothing is rushed.
Nothing is treated as one-size-fits-all.

Because what you receive isn’t just a collection of images or a film.

It’s the way you’ll return to this time in your life

If this way of working resonates

I’ve written a much more detailed page that walks through the full experience — from first message to final delivery — for anyone who’d like to understand it more deeply.

→You can read the full Wedding Photography & Film Experience here:

And if you’d like to talk about your own plans, I’d always love to hear what you’re imagining.

Jay